Tonight as I sit here, tired beyond words I just want to say to all moms out there…don’t give up, you’ve got this. This week has been extra busy and tiring, and I thought that I was being more organized and setting myself up for success. I also realized that no matter how many lists you make, how early you rise, how hard you work, setbacks will happen and you will just get tired. Last night I was so tired that my entire body hurt, but no matter how tired I was, sleep was nowhere to be found. Eventually around 11:30, I conked out.
I’ve realized that as a mother and wife, one of the main reasons we cannot find sleep or it cannot find us is because we have an inability to turn our brains off. Our mom brains usually have one function – ON. We rarely have airplane mode, do not disturb, or a sleep mode. We are overburdened with the thoughts of tomorrow, next week, next month, and even months down the road. I know that in order for me to get a more restful night’s sleep, I have to start unpacking some of that worry and clutter that is filling my head from the day by at least 3 hours before bedtime to be able to sleep. Easy to say, hard to do…trust me! I can give to you, just as I give it to myself, but it is up to us to make it work.
Mama’s, I think of us like an ant hill. We have the Queen and the workers, but guess what; we do it all. Nothing gets done right if we don’t do it, so why not just get it done right? Yes we can dictate a few minor things to the “workforce” but they can’t handle it all like we can. I want you to know that if you are feeling overworked, underpaid, and maybe a little under appreciated…I’m with you. We don’t always get the I love you’s, thank you’s, and we appreciate you that we deserve, but they do love, appreciate and thank us for all we do. Sometimes we have to tell ourselves and keep on working.
So, if you find yourself a little tense – which is not a hard place to find yourself lately step away. There has to be a place in your home unoccupied by another individual at some point, even if it’s outside. Breathe in some calming relaxing breaths, grab a cup of tea (peppermint, chamomile, lavender, green, valerian, ashwagandha are all relaxing teas). Read a book or go for a walk. I know that in the last 6 months we have all spent more time than we would normally spend with our families, without getting the normal amount of time we usually get to ourselves. I just want you to know that you are not alone! We are in this thing together and I am always here to listen. By all means, do not allow the stress of the moment make you miss out on the beautiful things life has to offer.
“Looking at beauty in the world, is the first step of purifying the mind.”