I’m not sure who said that self-care was selfish, but I am sure it was someone who doesn’t have to give 97% of themselves to someone else on a daily basis week after week. Just as a car and appliances need maintenance, we as humans do as well. Especially when we have to continuously give so much of ourselves, and we are expected to show up everyday without fail. I know that as a woman, as a wife, and as a mother – so much is expected and required of me. Oftentimes, I allow myself to go without the necessary time I need to recharge and refuel which has an affect on the relationships that mean the most to me because I am literally exhausted. I have exhausted every brain cell, my last nerve, my ability to reason, and sometimes my ability to care. If I don’t take the necessary time for me, it all goes to hell rather quickly.
Your self-care day doesn’t have to be Sunday. It can be a Saturday, or even a day during the week that you find isn’t as busy as others. I think Self-Care Sunday came about because it went together so well. You don’t have to take the entire day, but enough time to gather yourself to the point that you can effectively be YOURSELF. I’ll give you an example. Yesterday, I had plans to go and walk, get my exercises in early and then do housework that didn’t need to be done, but was more of the monthly things you do around the house. Clean drawers, clear out mail, the cleaning of stuff that no one really sees. Well, that didn’t happen. I dropped my daughter off for her SAT, realized that I had a little over 4 hours to burn, and decided I was still tired and went back to sleep. I picked her up, came home, drank coffee, and finished a really great book nestled comfortably under my chenille blanket in my recliner. I moved only when necessary, didn’t answer to Mama because Daddy was home, and I enjoyed that time. When I was finished, I felt renewed and refreshed by resting and reading – doing something I love to do. Once I addressed my needs, I dressed and told my husband it was time to hit the pavement. Two plus miles and 40 minutes later, I was kissed by the sun and received my dose of vitamin D; and my lungs were clear and full of fresh air. That made my day more complete on the self care front.
My self-care may not look like yours, but you have to find your version of what self-care looks like for you and incorporate into your weekly routine if possible. Waiting until your tank is bone dry is only hurting your overall system. Just as waiting for your check engine light to appear before you decide to change your oil, check your car’s operating systems, or do other maintenance your vehicle needs only hurts the overall health of your vehicle. So whether you are a woman or a man reading this, self-care is for everyone. It’s not just for someone like me juggling mom, wife, and the demands of everyday life. It is also for the person juggling the corporate job, the 9-5, the depressed and anxious person trying to climb out of their hole…it is for everyone! Take the time to:
- Meet your basic needs.
- Move your body.
- Get proper reset.
- Love Yourself…Self love is the best love!
- Get outside.
- Control your worrying.
- Incorporate positive thinking.
- Practice gratitude.
- Skip that extra cup of coffee…eek!
- Whatever makes you happy!!!
As I said, my self-care is not yours. You have to do the things that make you happy and keep you in your comfort zone. Find something that keeps you centered and gets you out of your head. Your self-care may be reading a book, watching a show on Netflix, or mountain biking for a few hours, but by all mean; find that thing and do it. The world needs happier, less stressed, and more positive thinking individuals right now, and taking better care of yourself can help achieve that.